Sex With Emily

Let's talk about what actually happens when desire disappears in a long term relationship… because most people assume their libido is just gone, or something is broken in their relationship, when the truth is usually something completely different. In this episode I'm breaking down how desire actually works, why spontaneous desire is mostly a myth for couples past the honeymoon phase, and the one simple 20 minute practice you can try this week to start feeling connected again without forcing anything. I'm also getting into the difference between duty sex and responsive desire, because those are not the same thing and confusing them is making a lot of people miserable. If you've ever thought something is wrong with you because you don't want sex the way you used to, this episode is for you.

Spoiler: nothing is wrong with you. Your desire just works differently now.



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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 



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Chapters:



00:00 Intro

01:06 The Honeymoon Phase & Why It Naturally Fades

02:09 Desire Isn't Gone — It's Changed Shape

03:35 Who This Episode Is For (And Who It's Not For)

04:47 Duty Sex vs. Responsive Desire

06:07 Reading Your Body's Real "Yes"

06:49 How Couples Quietly Drift Into "Roommates"

07:46 What the Research Says About Sex & Satisfaction

10:32 Desire Isn't a Light Switch (The Date Night Example)

12:12 Why Responsive Desire Isn't "Lesser" Desire

12:53 What's Actually Blocking Your Desire

15:15 The 20-Minute No-Sex Connection Challenge

16:16 The Makeout Challenge & Closing Thoughts



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For 20 years, people have asked me the same questions: what's the best position, how do I get better oral sex, is anal sex supposed to hurt. And honestly? I still love answering those. But after two decades of doing this podcast, I've realized something. People rarely come to me with the real problem. Underneath the sex question, there's almost always shame, rejection, resentment, or the big one: "am I normal?"



In this episode, I'm doing something I've never done before going back through 20 years of advice and telling you what I'd change. I'm a Doctor of Human Sexuality and I've talked to millions of people about their sex lives, and here's what I know now that I didn't then: "just communicate" isn't enough, "spice it up" doesn't fix resentment, spontaneous desire is mostly a myth for people in long-term relationships, and sleep and stress matter more than any toy in your nightstand. I'm breaking down the five pillars of sexual intelligence, why I think we're all obsessed with the wrong metrics, and what actually predicts great sex (hint: it's not technique). If you've ever wondered whether you're normal, this one's for you. You are.



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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 



CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

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Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

 

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Chapters:



00:00 Intro

00:50 20 years of sex advice, updated

03:03 What's really underneath people's sex questions

05:46 Why "just communicate" isn't enough

07:18 "Spice it up" won't fix resentment

08:03 Rethinking "schedule sex"

08:18 Spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire

11:04 Sleep, stress, and your libido

14:16 You are not broken

14:58 The permission problem

15:38 Why perfect sex doesn't exist

20:01 Mastering yourself, not just technique
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Let's talk about where the line actually is when it comes to cheating… because most couples never have this conversation until it's too late. In this episode I'm sitting down with licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert Scott Lyons to unpack what cheating really means in the digital age, from liking thirst traps and DMing an ex at 2am to full on affairs and everything in between. I'm also sharing something I've never talked about publicly: I'm a reformed cheater, and I'm getting honest about what was really going on underneath that.

Whether you've been cheated on, done the cheating, or just want to get ahead of it before it becomes a problem in your relationship, this episode gives you the real talk, the research, and the tools to define your boundaries, rebuild trust, and have the conversation most couples are too scared to start.



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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 



CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

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Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

 

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:51 - Why Couples Who Never Define Cheating Are Setting Themselves Up

5:17 - Physical, Emotional, Digital: The Different Ways People Cross the Line

9:05 - What Open Relationships Get Right That Monogamous Couples Almost Never Do

10:37 - Roleplaying the Conversation Every Couple Should Actually Have

13:20 - Is Fantasizing About Someone Else Cheating? The Neuroscience Answer

15:36 - When Your Partner Is Having Sex With You While Thinking About Your Friend

17:48 - What to Do When a Full Affair Has Actually Happened

26:00 - The Role of Jealousy — And How to Use It as Information Instead of Destruction

31:00 - Tech, Location Sharing and the Digital Behaviors That Blur the Line

37:40 - The Steps to Actually Repairing After Betrayal

39:55 - Why Sharing Passwords and Location Does Not Rebuild Trust

41:45 - Emily and Scott Get Personal: Their Own Experiences Being Cheated On

43:10 - The Dopamine Loop That Keeps You Stuck After Infidelity

44:38 - What Rebuilding Actually Looks Like — and What It Doesn't



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Let's talk about the small habits quietly killing your connection…  because most relationships don't fall apart from one big betrayal, they drift apart from the little things we let slide every day. In this episode I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes I see couples make over and over, from protecting your partner from the truth to keeping appreciation stuck in your head instead of saying it out loud, and giving you a practical workaround for each one. I'm also answering your live questions on setting boundaries in short-term relationships and how to start the sex conversation with a new partner. Whether you've been together six months or 60 years, every one of these skills can be learned, and I promise there's at least one mistake on this list you didn't realize you were making!



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 



CONNECT WITH EMILY:

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

2:33 The Biggest Relationship Mistakes Couples Make

4:09 Mistake #1: Protecting Your Partner from the Truth

7:46 Mistake #2: Trying to Win the Argument

10:02 Mistake #3: Assuming You Already Know Your Partner

13:00 Mistake #4: Correcting Before Connecting

15:52 Mistake #5: Judging a Relationship by Sex Frequency

18:03 Mistake #6: Letting Conflict Linger Too Long

21:25 Mistake #7: Keeping Appreciation to Yourself

26:03 Mistake #8: Ignoring the Power of Daily Habits

28:10 Mistake #9: Asking Questions That Go Nowhere

29:51 Healthy Boundaries in Casual Relationships

32:18 How to Talk About Sex With a New Partner

34:07 Final Thoughts & Tour Dates
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Throwback to another one of my favorite conversations! Have you ever wondered where the line actually is between loyalty and betrayal? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to unpack the messy, subjective world of infidelity in 2025. We get into the questions couples almost never ask each other… is porn cheating, is a flirty DM cheating, is fantasizing about someone else cheating… and why avoiding these conversations is often what leads to bigger ruptures down the line. I also get vulnerable about my own history as a self-described "reformed cheater," and Scott and I both open up about being on the receiving end of infidelity ourselves. We break down the real stats on who cheats and why, talk through micro-cheating and emotional affairs in the age of social media, and walk through what genuine repair looks like when trust has been broken. If you want a real, no-shame framework for defining your own relationship boundaries, this one's for you.



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 



CONNECT WITH EMILY:

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CONNECT WITH DR. SCOTT LYONS:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/ 

Website: https://www.drscottlyons.com/



WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!



Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily

4:55 What is Cheating?

9:10 Why Every Couple Needs to Define Boundaries

12:45 How to Talk About Monogamy

14:31 Are Fantasies a Form of Cheating?

17:22 Listeners Story: When Fantasies Hurt a Relationship

19:42 Infidelity Stats

22:27 Dr. Emily Opens Up About Her Past Infidelity

25:38 Recovering After Being Cheated On

29:03 Monogamy, Open Relationships & Honest Conversations

36:26 Is Micro-Cheating Actually Cheating?

39:48 Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity
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