Sex With Emily

Low desire isn’t always about your relationship or something you need to “fix” inside yourself. Sometimes, feeling more connected to your sexuality begins outside the bedroom: with creativity, friendship, novelty, connection, and getting back in touch with the parts of life that make you feel alive.

In this episode, I’m talking about why libido is shaped by so much more than sex, how to get curious before diagnosing yourself, and the small ways you can spark eroticism without putting pressure on yourself or your partner. Because a better sex life might not start with another conversation, supplement, or dating app—it might start the moment you step back into the world.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from desire, stuck in a rut, or wondering whether it’s you or your relationship, this episode is for you.

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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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Chapters:00:00 Cold Open: "Get Uncomfortable"00:17 Welcome to Sex with Emily (+ Tour Dates)01:54 Why Connection Is the Missing Piece03:12 The EV Charging Station Story06:05 Your Environment Shapes You More Than You Realize06:56 The Missing Wellness Pillar: Social Health09:43 What This Has to Do With Sex13:19 Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does15:28 The 7-Day Challenge: Increase Your Exposure to Life16:35 Listener Q&A: Roommates, Dating Apps & Libido24:34 Today's Message & Outro
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Let's talk about five things that are quietly killing your sex life that have absolutely nothing to do with attraction, technique, or how much you love your partner… because after 20 years of helping people improve their sex lives, I can tell you we are way too quick to assume low desire means something is wrong with us. Sometimes the conditions around your sex life just suck. In this episode I'm giving you five very unsexy tips that can make your sex life a whole lot better, and I promise at least one of them is going to make you go, oh that's exactly us. Fair warning: number three is the one everyone rolls their eyes at. And it's the one that actually works.



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.`



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Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Maybe Your Sex Life Doesn't Need Fixing01:48 The Five Unsexy Things Overview02:29 Tip 1: Stop Making Sex the Last Thing on the List05:38 Tip 2: Lube Is Not a Report Card07:54 Tip 3: Put Possibility on the Calendar (Schedule Sex)10:46 Tip 4: Your Sex Life Doesn't Live Outside Your Body12:38 Where to Keep Your Lube (Plus a Product Note)13:21 Tip 5: You Can't Go From Project Manager to Sex Goddess in 30 Seconds16:21 Recap: Pick One Unsexy Thing to Start17:29 Outro & Where to Find More
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What if the reason you keep having the same fight with your partner isn't that you don't love each other, it's that you're speaking completely different love languages? You may be giving love exactly the way you'd want to receive it, while your partner is waiting for something totally different.

In this throwback episode, I'm breaking down the five love languages, acts of service, gift giving, physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation, and how understanding yours (and your partner's) can help you move through resentment, feel more connected, and bring more intimacy into your relationship. We also get into how each love language can show up sexually, what to do when yours don't match, and simple ways to make your partner actually feel the love you're already trying to give.

If you've ever wondered why your efforts don't seem to land, why the same relationship frustrations keep coming back, or how to create more love and better sex without overcomplicating it, this episode is for you.



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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0:00 - What If Love Languages Could Lead to Better Sex?2:42 - The Five Love Languages Explained5:00 - Acts of Service in and Out of the Bedroom9:00 - Gift Giving (and the Sex Act That Falls Under It)13:00 - Physical Touch — Emily Gets Personal18:00 - When Your Partner Doesn't Share Your Love Language22:00 - Quality Time: Being Together vs. Being Present26:00 - Words of Affirmation (Yes, Dirty Talk Counts)28:00 - When You and Your Partner Speak Different Languages32:11 - Love Languages in Long Distance Relationships33:23 - How to Spot Someone's Love Language Without Asking35:18 - How Each Love Language Translates Into Sex37:00 - Caller #1: She Accidentally Shamed His Penis41:00 - Caller #2: Not Attracted to His Girlfriend Anymore
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Let's talk about why initiating sex in your relationship started feeling like a test… because somewhere along the way, that moment of reaching for your partner stopped feeling like closeness and started feeling like a pass-fail question hanging in the air. Am I about to get rejected? Am I going to disappoint them? And when initiation starts to feel that way, both people stop doing it. In this episode I'm giving you five concrete steps to change the whole dynamic, starting with one reframe that makes everything else possible.



We're talking about how to read the room before you even reach for your partner, what to say instead of do you want to have sex, how to bridge the gap when one of you has been thinking about it all day and the other just got done folding laundry, and the one response to a no that either builds or destroys trust over time.



If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, talked yourself out of initiating, or noticed that the affection in your relationship quietly disappeared along with the sex, this episode is for you.



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠

Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply!



This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 When Initiation Starts to Feel Like a Test

01:20 Meet Dr. Emily & Why Initiation Trips Couples Up

02:08 The Mindset Shift: Invitation, Not Contract

02:28 Reframing Initiation as an Invitation

03:40 The Five-Step Overview

03:55 Step 1: Time the Invitation

04:26 Step 2: Make It an Invitation, Not an Audition

05:34 Step 3: Close the Desire Gap

07:18 Step 4: Ditch the Yes-or-No Trap (Try the 1-10 Scale)

08:48 Step 5: Protect the No

09:59 The Bigger Conversation to Have Outside the Bedroom

10:31 Recap: Building Safety So Desire Can Grow



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Let's talk about the sex skills nobody teaches you and why most people are still waiting for their partner to figure it out instead of just saying it out loud… because that's exactly what today's callers are done doing. In this episode I'm taking live calls from people who are done leaving their pleasure up to chance. We've got a 27 year old who wants to learn how to squirt on her own without relying on anyone to do it for her, a couple who wants to bring others into their play but can't figure out how to find the right people, and a woman whose new partner flat out refused to try to make her orgasm. I promise that last one goes somewhere really good. If you have ever felt like you were the only one carrying the weight of your own pleasure, this episode will change that.



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



CONNECT:

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠

X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠

TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠

Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠



WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠

Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply!



This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:19 Call 1: How Do I Learn to Squirt on My Own

04:30 Squirting vs Orgasm: Are They the Same Thing

06:30 What Actually Helps With Squirting

09:00 Teaching Yourself Before You Teach a Partner

11:30 Call 2: We Want to Open Things Up But Can't Find the Right People

14:00 How to Find Partners for Ethical Non-Monogamy

17:00 The Conversations to Have Before You Start

20:00 Call 3: He Refused to Try to Make Me Orgasm

23:00 What That Tells You About Someone Early On

26:00 Why Talking About Sex Early Saves You So Much Time

29:00 If You're Naked With Someone It's Time to Start Talking

31:00 What Sexually Healthy Actually Means
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