Sex With Emily

When the wedding’s over and real life kicks in, it’s so common for sex to shift — sometimes fast. In this throwback live show, Dr. Emily tackles the myth that marriage equals the end of your sex life, and breaks down how to bring back that “honeymoon energy” without forcing it or turning intimacy into another chore.

Emily shares a simple framework for staying connected long-term (including her idea of “sex vows”), then takes calls from listeners navigating a sudden post-marriage libido drop and the emotional whiplash of being single while everyone around you is getting engaged.



In this episode, you’ll learn:

 • Why desire often drops after commitment — and how to address it before resentment builds

 • Practical ways to revive novelty and reconnect (including “sex vows” you can actually use)

 • How to handle the pressure and loneliness when it feels like everyone else is getting married



More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by…

Qualia: 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:26 - Current Trends in Sex and Relationships

5:25 - Essential Conversations Before Marriage

7:40 - Writing Your Sex Vows

9:49 - Planning Your Pleasure: Yes/No/Maybe List

12:39 - Recreating Honeymoon Sex Energy

16:00 - Q&A: When His Sex Drive Plummets After Marriage

22:30 - Q&A: Exploring Bisexuality in a Committed Relationship

25:24 - Q&A: Building a Sex Life You've Never Had

30:56 - Q&A: When Your Partner Doesn't Want Marriage

You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication — your brain is literally wired to treat these conversations like threats. In this live show, I break down exactly why sex talks trigger fight-or-flight, how shame keeps us mute in the bedroom, and what to do when you've been together for years and never actually talked about what you want.



This episode was recorded LIVE across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs.



You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being LIVE together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good, without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why your brain treats sex conversations like danger (and how to override it)

• How to find your sexual voice and stop cringing when you try to speak up

• A husband's honest question about rekindling intimacy after kids



You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by…

Timeline

Don’t let another year go by feeling less than your best. Grab 30% off your first month of Mitopure Gummies at Timeline.com/emily30



Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

06:45 - The Clitoris Has 12,000 Nerve Endings (Full Anatomy Explained)

13:20 - How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Cringey

18:15 - Mutual Masturbation: Why It's a Top Sex Tip

22:40 - Squirting: The Truth vs The Pressure

28:10 - Breaking Down Shame & Performance Anxiety

35:50 - Sex After Kids: Rekindling Intimacy (Live Caller Question)

38:25 - Medications Killing Your Libido (What to Do About It)

40:15 - Finding the Right Sex Therapist (Somatic vs Talk Therapy)

You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little stuck in your head. In this live show, Dr. Emily answers your unfiltered questions about what happens when desire fades, how to talk to a partner who clams up about what they want, and why the "how often should we be having sex?" question is missing the point entirely.



This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.



You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!



In this episode, you'll learn: 



• Why "how often should we have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead 

• The three pleasure thieves silently wrecking your libido 

• How to help a shy partner open up about their desires (without making it awkward)



More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 

Bathmate: 

Try the Bathmate Hydro Pump Today at bathmatedirect.com! Use code “SWE10” for a discount at checkout!



Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:04 - How often should couples have sex?

5:57 - Getting your partner to communicate about sex

8:39 - Do most couples talk about sex?

10:57 - Why your sex life shouldn't stay the same for decades

15:34 - Navigating intimacy with chronic illness

18:44 - Myth: Good sex should be spontaneous

21:06 - Myth: Orgasms are the ultimate goal

23:16 - Sex during pregnancy when your partner pulls back

26:57 - Dealing with early ejaculation

30:28 - Helping a stressed partner get in the mood

33:56 - Top sex toy recommendations

34:28 - Myth: Lube is only for older women

Let's be honest — for all the progress we've made, most of us still don't know how to talk about sex. We can talk about work, money, kids, literally everything else. But ask your partner what actually turns them on? Cue panic.



In this live show, Dr. Emily opens up the gates for your questions and wow, you did not hold back. She tackles why sex stops feeling fun and starts feeling like a chore, what's really going on when desire disappears, and how to flip the script from obligation back to connection.



This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast.



After over two decades of talking about sex, I’ve learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You’ll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Don't forget to tune in on most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. 



In this episode, you'll learn:



• Why sex becomes "just another item on the to-do list" and what that really means 

• The difference between duty and desire — and why confusing them breeds resentment 

• How to rebrand sex as connection instead of obligation



More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).



• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure



• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website



• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube



• Let’s text: Sign up here



• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 



Bellesa 

"EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"



Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:36 - "Pick Up Laundry, Do Dishes, Have Sex... Check"

6:07 - When You're Not in the Mood to Give

12:25 - How to Ask Someone Out (Live Caller)

14:26 - Can You Make Her Squirt? Techniques That Actually Work

22:22 - How to Get Your Partner to Want Intimacy Again

30:53 - Finding a Third: Dos and Don'ts for Couples

36:08 - The Power of Edging

40:38 - "Desire Needs Space, Not Stress"

47:29 - How to Make Sex Feel Like Connection Again

EPISODE SUMMARY



Dolly Josette is a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach known as "The Pleasure Muse" who helps people reconnect with their bodies to unlock deeper pleasure. In this episode, Dolly returns to the show to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our own sensations, where trauma actually lives in the body, and how a few minutes of daily practice can transform your relationship with pleasure. She and Dr. Emily get into embodiment work, why your genitals might be holding onto more than you realize, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself for others.



In this episode, you'll learn:



• What somatic sexology actually is and how it differs from talk therapy



• Why your body stores emotions and trauma in your fascia and genitals



• The simple exercise that can help you release blocks you didn't know you had



• Why you can't figure out what you want sexually until your body feels safe



• How to do a "vulva hug" and why your genitals might be craving your attention



• The real reason pleasure fades after the honeymoon phase



• Why embodiment isn't another thing on your to-do list — it's how you live



• How long it actually takes to build an embodiment practice that sticks



• The one song a day practice that can pull you back into your body



• What your body is trying to tell you when you feel frozen or shut down



• How to access your partner's prostate for maximum pleasure



More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).



• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure



• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website



• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube



• Let’s text: Sign up here



• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 



Bellesa 

"EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"



Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:12 - What is Somatic Sexology and Body Work?

5:02 - Why You Can't Feel Pleasure Until Your Body Feels Safe

9:03 - How Trauma Gets Stored in Your Genitals

14:54 - The Power of Slowing Down During Intimate Touch

20:51 - Hungry Hungry Vagina: HRT and Hormonal Changes

27:02 - Finding Your Pleasure Spot at the Vaginal Entrance

29:36 - How to Stimulate the Prostate for Maximum Pleasure

36:40 - Why You Need More Non-Sexual Touch in Your Life

41:03 - Your Body is Craving Your Attention