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What are the conversations you're not having with your partner, and what is that silence actually costing you?

Dr. Jennifer Freed, psychological astrologer and therapist, is back and we went deep. We cover victim language vs. power language in sex, the three real reasons we avoid intimacy conversations, and how to actually get to your "power yes." Plus listener questions on threesomes, low libido, spotting a sensual lover, and what EMDR really does to your brain.

Jen also coins the term "emo porn" and we both have to admit we're guilty.

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ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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Chapters:



0:00 - Where Your Words Go, Your Energy Goes2:34 - Meet Dr. Jennifer Freed: Psychological Astrologer and 30-Year Therapist4:03 - Men’s Biggest Sexual Challenge (And It’s Not What You Think)5:08 - Sex as an Expectation vs. an Invitation: Why the Framing Changes Everything5:28 - The Victim Behaviors Secretly Killing Your Power in the Bedroom7:36 - “I Have To” vs. “I Get To”: The Language Shift That Rewires Your Brain Around Sex9:34 - The 30-Minute Body Mapping Exercise That Can Transform Your Sex Life Tonight10:21 - Your Feelings and Sensations Are the Only Irrefutable Truth11:22 - Men and Performance Anxiety: What Would Happen If They Were Just Allowed to Receive?13:22 - The Serial Sex Guy Who Was Depressed (And What It Reveals About Frequency)16:05 - The Forbidden Conversations in Your Relationship Are Exactly Where the Juice Is16:36 - The Three Reasons We Hide Things From Our Partners: Security, Control, Approval18:45 - The Gaps in Relationships Are Where the Damage Lives19:48 - Q: How Do You Keep the Fire Going While Still Being Vulnerable?20:35 - Your Partner Is Not Your Therapist: What to Share and What Not To22:11 - Revelation Is Not a Dump: Trust Is Built Through Accretion23:37 - Erotic Tension and Otherness: Why Mystery Is Essential to Attraction24:04 - Things You Should Never Say — and How to Say the Hard Things Instead26:09 - The Conversation Is an Invitation, Not a Confrontation27:06 - Q: How Do You Reconcile With Men After a Painful History With Them?28:55 - Q: Hookup Buddy Wants a Relationship and You Don’t — What Do You Do?30:01 - Mixed Messages, Time Limits and Why You Need Friends Who Tell You the Truth32:03 - “Emo Porn”: The Concept That Explains Your Most Dramatic Friendships33:47 - Q: How to Spot a Sensual Lover Without Sleeping With a Lot of People36:14 - Astrology and Compatibility: What Your Sun Sign Actually Cannot Tell You37:48 - Every Relationship Is a Teacher — the Most Courageous Spiritual Path38:12 - Q: How to Ease Into an Open Relationship or Fulfill a Threesome Fantasy41:08 - Q: Does EMDR Therapy Actually Work?
43:03 - Q: Low Libido at 25 After Five Years Together — What’s Happening?44:21 - It’s Not Low Libido, It’s High Boredom (And the Real Fix)45:10 - The Secret to Reigniting Desire: Go Back to Courtship






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Here's something I wish someone had told me years ago. Young doesn't mean sexually confident, 40s doesn't mean sexually over, and the biggest mistake most couples make has nothing to do with technique. It's assuming they already know what their partner wants. In this episode I'm walking through what actually happens to a woman's body and desire across her 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond: what changes, what stays the same, and what you can do to be a better partner at every stage.



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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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Timestamps:0:00 - Cold open: does sex get worse as a woman gets older?1:44 - Her 20s: young doesn’t mean great sex4:12 - Why most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone5:33 - Her 30s: more confidence, new challenges6:06 - After a baby: why her desire changes9:11 - Her 40s: what perimenopause does to desire and arousal11:58 - Spontaneous vs. responsive desire13:51 - Menopause and beyond: sex has no expiration date15:02 - Treatments for painful sex after menopause15:39 - Why sex shouldn’t be defined by penetration17:31 - The biggest mistake: assuming you know what she likes
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Ever wonder what really happens inside a sex therapist's office? Dr. Jenni Skyler, certified sex therapist, founder of the Intimacy Institute, and co-host of Sex and the Psyche, pulls back the curtain on what couples are really struggling with, why low desire is more normal than you think, and the two metaphors that change everything: the erotic piggy bank and the car on the highway.



We also get personal about Vyleesi. Our own experiences, the side effects, and what it actually feels like when desire comes back online. Spoiler: it gets good.



And yes, we go there. The myths, the duty sex, the midnight shoulder tap, the pressure to have simultaneous orgasms like it's a Hollywood movie. All of it on the table.



In this episode:- The erotic piggy bank: rebuilding desire through non-sexual deposits- Why spontaneous sex is a myth and what to do instead- The ten-minute invitation technique that changes everything- Vyleesi vs. Addyi: our honest, personal take



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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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Real people. Real questions. No filters. In this hotline episode I take live calls from listeners navigating some of the most common and least talked about sexual dilemmas — from a woman in a good relationship who can’t stop fantasizing about women, to a 19-year-old whose birth control has wiped out her desire entirely, to a man trying to reconnect with his wife after a miscarriage, and more. These are the conversations people carry around for years without ever knowing who to ask. Let’s talk about them.

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Chapters:
0:00 Live Hotline: Real Questions About Sex, Desire, and Connection
1:19 Call 1: I’m Fantasizing About Women But I’m in a Relationship With a Man
3:30 Why Moving In Together Can Kill the Spark
5:45 Does He Get to Decide Which Fantasies You Can Have?
8:00 How to Tell Your Partner Exactly What You Want in Bed
10:30 The Yes No Maybe List and Why Every Couple Needs It
12:55 Call 2: Birth Control Took My Sex Drive to Zero
14:45 How the Pill Quietly Affects Desire and Mood
16:30 Learning Your Own Body for the First Time
19:00 Call 3: I’m Bisexual and Leaning More Toward Men
21:00 The Double Standard Around Male vs. Female Bisexuality
23:30 Call 4: My Wife Only Wants Sex When She’s Ovulating
26:00 Sex After a Miscarriage: What Couples Get Wrong
30:00 How to Keep Your Sex Life Alive While Trying to Conceive
32:30 Call 5: My Partner Says She’s Lazy in Bed
35:00 Mutual Masturbation as a Learning Tool
37:00 Call 6: 25 Years Married and Suddenly Insecure About My Body
38:15 What to Do When Insecurity Is Getting in the Way of Intimacy
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Whether it's a body pattern you've never been able to break, a sex life that went quiet during a hard season, or a relationship where desire just doesn't match up — these are the questions people carry around for years without knowing where to take them. Let's talk about real listener questions on orgasm habits, how to restart intimacy after illness, navigating power dynamics in a relationship, and what to actually do when your partner seems completely uninterested in sex.



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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Chapters:

0:00 Real Sex Questions You Were Too Embarrassed to Ask

2:00 Q: I Can Only Orgasm One Way. Can I Change That?

3:47 How to Retrain Your Body for Full-Body Orgasms

6:23 The Breathwork Practice That Changes Everything

8:30 Q: How Do We Restart Our Sex Life After Six Months Off?

10:19 How to Ease Back In Without Pressure or Awkwardness

12:43 Q: I Want to Switch Roles But My Partner Won't

14:27 Top and Bottom Dynamics and Masculine Feminine Energy

17:05 How Age and Experience Shape Power in Relationships

19:17 Q: My Wife Just Wants It Over Quickly. What Do I Do?

21:00 When Culture and Shame Shut Down Desire

23:25 Sexual Health Is Overall Health. Here Is Why That Matters
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