Sex With Emily

I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time.

Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them.



In this episode, you'll learn:

 • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste

 • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood

 • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth



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• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker?

11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs

13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy

18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters

19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings?

27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners

33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up?

36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating

42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex
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What if the key to better sex wasn't about technique — it was about learning to feel your own body again? Taryn Toomey, founder of The Class, joined me live at Eudaimonia to break down how 13 years of somatic movement quietly rewired her relationship with pleasure, sound, and receiving — and why the two aren't as different as you'd think.

From faking orgasms in her 20s to purring her way through her "delicious" 40s, Taryn gets raw about her two-year stretch of only receiving oral sex, falling deeply in love after divorce, and what it really means to let someone in — body and soul.



Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!



In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why the sounds you make in a workout and the sounds you make in bed come from the exact same place — and how unlocking one unlocks the other

• How Taryn's two-year "oral sex only" era taught her more about receiving, boundaries, and her own body than any relationship ever did

• The one breathwork tool that works both in The Class and during sex to get out of your head and back into your body — instantly



And if you want to dive deeper into Taryn’s work after listening, we’ve got a little gift for you. Go to https://browse.theclass.digital/ and get 20% off her Digital Platform with the promo code SEXWITHEMILY.



Eudemonia:

• Website



Find Taryn:

• https://www.instagram.com/taryntoomey/

• https://www.taryntoomey.com/

• https://www.theclass.com/

• https://www.instagram.com/theclass/



More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

0:20 - Meet Taran Tumi: Founder of The Class & the Embodiment Movement

1:37 - Why It's So Hard to Actually Be in Your Body

4:35 - The Connection Between Voice, Sound & Pleasure

7:41 - Dating After Divorce: What Intimacy Looks Like Now

9:00 - Why Men Struggle with Sound in the Class (And in the Bedroom)

13:28 - How the Class Actually Works: The Method Behind the Movement

17:06 - The Class Gave Her a Great Vagina (And Why That Makes Sense)

18:07 - Heartbreak, Beautiful Love & Learning to Receive

21:30 - The Orgasm Gap & Why Women Can't Receive Oral Sex

24:42 - Breathing, Co-Regulation & Getting Out of Your Head During Sex

28:51 - The Energy You Take Into Your Body: Sex, Attachment & Staying Mindful

32:09 - What Happens When You Stop Performing and Start Feeling

34:01 - Feeling More at Home in Your Body at 47 Than at 20

39:03 - Decades of Sex in a Few Words: Drunk, Formulaic, Delicious

43:45 - Dating as a Single Mom & What Her Daughters Reflect Back

47:01 - One Truth About Pleasure & One Practice to Start Tonight

48:35 - Audience Q&A: How to Ask for Oral Sex, Talking to Daughters About Sex
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Whether you're trying to work up the nerve to ask out your office crush, figuring out what you actually want in bed, or navigating a decades-long relationship that's hit a sexual wall — the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: you have to be willing to go there. Say the thing. Ask the question. Have the conversation you've been putting off.

In this episode, I'm taking listener calls on everything from the first nervous steps back into dating to the hard conversations that long-term couples are too scared to start.



In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why dating is a muscle — and what to actually do when you've been out of the game so long that even asking someone out feels impossible

• What really happens to a vulva when a woman is fully aroused, why morning sex resentment is almost never just about morning sex, and what to do when your sexual awakening happens 20 years into a committed relationship

• How to talk to your kids about sex early and often in a way that builds confidence instead of shame — starting with something as simple as using the right words for their body parts



More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:07 - How to Ask Out an Office Crush Without Overthinking It 

6:06 - Breaking Out of the Friend Zone on a First Date 

9:43 - She Engorged During Orgasm — What Just Happened? 

15:21 - Embracing What Sex Actually Looks and Feels Like 

16:07 - Boyfriend Wants Her to Sleep with Someone Else — Does She Have To?

18:42 - Resentful About 5:30 a.m. Sex & Never Having Orgasms 

22:23 - Sexual Awakening, Open Relationship Fallout & Staying or Going

26:35 - How to Raise a Sex-Positive Son Without Shame 
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Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health.

In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age

• The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about

• Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:51 - Caller #1 (Jamie, 44): Partner Chatting with Sex Workers Online — Is It Cheating?

9:46 - Dr. Emily's Takeaway: Masturbation in Relationships & Staying Curious

10:30 - Caller #2 (Damian, 28): His Wife Is Grossed Out by Touching Herself

16:09 - Caller #3 (Lacy, 25): Love Bombed on a First Date, Then Blocked

23:55 - Caller #4 (Rachel, 25): Getting Back Into Sex After a Long Break

32:23 - Caller #5 (Karina): Dating After Trauma & Learning to Say No

41:00 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: Your No Can Be a Not Yet
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Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health.

In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age

• The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about

• Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to



This episode is sponsored by...

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More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:26 - Meet Dr. Sherry Ross: OBGYN & Author of the Shiology Book Series

4:35 - Treat Your Vagina Like the Skin on Your Face

6:32 - The Visual Vaginal Library & Why Porn Is Distorting Body Image

8:08 - Can Every Woman Squirt? Dr. Sherry Weighs In

10:09 - Listener Q&A: Perimenopause Symptoms, Hormones & What to Ask Your Doctor

13:36 - Wearable Dilators: What They Are & Who Actually Needs Them

15:27 - The Real Causes of Painful Sex (Beyond Just Dryness)

18:00 - Recurring UTIs & Yeast Infections: Why They Keep Happening

19:05 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Sherry Ross
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