Sex With Emily

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Why does he have sex like a porn star? And why does it make you feel used instead of satisfied?


In this episode, I'm taking your calls on one of the most common questions I get: porn. What happens when your partner seems more into porn than you, when you cry after sex because you felt like a prop, or when your own fantasies make you feel ashamed. I break it all down, with real listener calls and zero judgment.


We also get into the uncomfortable truth that most young people are learning how to have sex from porn. And that's a problem we all need to talk about.


ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.


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Timestamps:
0:00 - Cold open: why he likes “porn star sex”
2:38 - Listener email: my boyfriend secretly watches porn to get hard
4:08 - Why you have to practice satisfying yourself
5:51 - Caller #1: navigating single life without feeling used
8:45 - Why he likes porn star sex: it's the only sex he's had
11:35 - Why porn is a terrible sex teacher
14:34 - Caller #2: bringing porn into his marriage
18:08 - Listener email: only able to climax to a rough fantasy
20:10 - Mindful masturbation to stay present
21:17 - Listener email: my boyfriend masturbates to porn next to me
22:35 - How to talk to your partner: timing, turf, and tone
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What are the conversations you're not having with your partner, and what is that silence actually costing you?

Dr. Jennifer Freed, psychological astrologer and therapist, is back and we went deep. We cover victim language vs. power language in sex, the three real reasons we avoid intimacy conversations, and how to actually get to your "power yes." Plus listener questions on threesomes, low libido, spotting a sensual lover, and what EMDR really does to your brain.

Jen also coins the term "emo porn" and we both have to admit we're guilty.

Find Dr. Jennifer Freed:Website: https://www.jenniferfreed.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjenniferfreed/



ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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Chapters:



0:00 - Where Your Words Go, Your Energy Goes2:34 - Meet Dr. Jennifer Freed: Psychological Astrologer and 30-Year Therapist4:03 - Men’s Biggest Sexual Challenge (And It’s Not What You Think)5:08 - Sex as an Expectation vs. an Invitation: Why the Framing Changes Everything5:28 - The Victim Behaviors Secretly Killing Your Power in the Bedroom7:36 - “I Have To” vs. “I Get To”: The Language Shift That Rewires Your Brain Around Sex9:34 - The 30-Minute Body Mapping Exercise That Can Transform Your Sex Life Tonight10:21 - Your Feelings and Sensations Are the Only Irrefutable Truth11:22 - Men and Performance Anxiety: What Would Happen If They Were Just Allowed to Receive?13:22 - The Serial Sex Guy Who Was Depressed (And What It Reveals About Frequency)16:05 - The Forbidden Conversations in Your Relationship Are Exactly Where the Juice Is16:36 - The Three Reasons We Hide Things From Our Partners: Security, Control, Approval18:45 - The Gaps in Relationships Are Where the Damage Lives19:48 - Q: How Do You Keep the Fire Going While Still Being Vulnerable?20:35 - Your Partner Is Not Your Therapist: What to Share and What Not To22:11 - Revelation Is Not a Dump: Trust Is Built Through Accretion23:37 - Erotic Tension and Otherness: Why Mystery Is Essential to Attraction24:04 - Things You Should Never Say — and How to Say the Hard Things Instead26:09 - The Conversation Is an Invitation, Not a Confrontation27:06 - Q: How Do You Reconcile With Men After a Painful History With Them?28:55 - Q: Hookup Buddy Wants a Relationship and You Don’t — What Do You Do?30:01 - Mixed Messages, Time Limits and Why You Need Friends Who Tell You the Truth32:03 - “Emo Porn”: The Concept That Explains Your Most Dramatic Friendships33:47 - Q: How to Spot a Sensual Lover Without Sleeping With a Lot of People36:14 - Astrology and Compatibility: What Your Sun Sign Actually Cannot Tell You37:48 - Every Relationship Is a Teacher — the Most Courageous Spiritual Path38:12 - Q: How to Ease Into an Open Relationship or Fulfill a Threesome Fantasy41:08 - Q: Does EMDR Therapy Actually Work?
43:03 - Q: Low Libido at 25 After Five Years Together — What’s Happening?44:21 - It’s Not Low Libido, It’s High Boredom (And the Real Fix)45:10 - The Secret to Reigniting Desire: Go Back to Courtship






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Here's something I wish someone had told me years ago. Young doesn't mean sexually confident, 40s doesn't mean sexually over, and the biggest mistake most couples make has nothing to do with technique. It's assuming they already know what their partner wants. In this episode I'm walking through what actually happens to a woman's body and desire across her 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond: what changes, what stays the same, and what you can do to be a better partner at every stage.



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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



CONNECT:

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. 

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Timestamps:0:00 - Cold open: does sex get worse as a woman gets older?1:44 - Her 20s: young doesn’t mean great sex4:12 - Why most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone5:33 - Her 30s: more confidence, new challenges6:06 - After a baby: why her desire changes9:11 - Her 40s: what perimenopause does to desire and arousal11:58 - Spontaneous vs. responsive desire13:51 - Menopause and beyond: sex has no expiration date15:02 - Treatments for painful sex after menopause15:39 - Why sex shouldn’t be defined by penetration17:31 - The biggest mistake: assuming you know what she likes
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Ever wonder what really happens inside a sex therapist's office? Dr. Jenni Skyler, certified sex therapist, founder of the Intimacy Institute, and co-host of Sex and the Psyche, pulls back the curtain on what couples are really struggling with, why low desire is more normal than you think, and the two metaphors that change everything: the erotic piggy bank and the car on the highway.



We also get personal about Vyleesi. Our own experiences, the side effects, and what it actually feels like when desire comes back online. Spoiler: it gets good.



And yes, we go there. The myths, the duty sex, the midnight shoulder tap, the pressure to have simultaneous orgasms like it's a Hollywood movie. All of it on the table.



In this episode:- The erotic piggy bank: rebuilding desire through non-sexual deposits- Why spontaneous sex is a myth and what to do instead- The ten-minute invitation technique that changes everything- Vyleesi vs. Addyi: our honest, personal take



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ABOUT DR.JENNI SKYLER

Website: ⁠The Intimacy Institute

Podcast: ⁠Sex and the Psyche

Instagram: ⁠@drjenniskyler

YouTube: ⁠Sex and the Psyche Podcast

Coming Soon: SavvySex – The App



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.



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Real people. Real questions. No filters. In this hotline episode I take live calls from listeners navigating some of the most common and least talked about sexual dilemmas — from a woman in a good relationship who can’t stop fantasizing about women, to a 19-year-old whose birth control has wiped out her desire entirely, to a man trying to reconnect with his wife after a miscarriage, and more. These are the conversations people carry around for years without ever knowing who to ask. Let’s talk about them.

ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:
0:00 Live Hotline: Real Questions About Sex, Desire, and Connection
1:19 Call 1: I’m Fantasizing About Women But I’m in a Relationship With a Man
3:30 Why Moving In Together Can Kill the Spark
5:45 Does He Get to Decide Which Fantasies You Can Have?
8:00 How to Tell Your Partner Exactly What You Want in Bed
10:30 The Yes No Maybe List and Why Every Couple Needs It
12:55 Call 2: Birth Control Took My Sex Drive to Zero
14:45 How the Pill Quietly Affects Desire and Mood
16:30 Learning Your Own Body for the First Time
19:00 Call 3: I’m Bisexual and Leaning More Toward Men
21:00 The Double Standard Around Male vs. Female Bisexuality
23:30 Call 4: My Wife Only Wants Sex When She’s Ovulating
26:00 Sex After a Miscarriage: What Couples Get Wrong
30:00 How to Keep Your Sex Life Alive While Trying to Conceive
32:30 Call 5: My Partner Says She’s Lazy in Bed
35:00 Mutual Masturbation as a Learning Tool
37:00 Call 6: 25 Years Married and Suddenly Insecure About My Body
38:15 What to Do When Insecurity Is Getting in the Way of Intimacy
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