Beautifully Complex

Do you find it challenging to stay calm and mindful when your child is having a tough time in public? Gabriele Nicolet and I explore understanding kid’s behavior from both behavioral and neurophysiological perspectives. Gabriele, a seasoned speech therapist and parent coach, shares invaluable insights into decoding what behaviors signify about a kid’s internal states and sensory needs. We discuss the importance of validating those needs without letting behavior spiral out of control, and offer practical strategies to co-regulate with your child.

Throughout the episode, you'll gain a profound understanding of the critical balance between encouraging self-advocacy and addressing immediate behavioral issues, especially in kids facing neurodivergent challenges. Gabriele discusses why compliance is often overvalued while genuine self-efficacy starts from a child's early refusals and disagreements. You'll also hear personal anecdotes that bring these concepts to life, offering you relatable scenarios and practical advice for managing everything from sensory discomfort to school avoidance. Don't miss out on learning how to parent with empathy, understand the true roots of your child's behavior, and create a sense of safety and calm in both routine and challenging moments.

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Have you ever felt helpless as your child gets stuck in repetitive behaviors or meltdowns, leaving you wondering how to help them break free? In this episode of Beautifully Complex, I sit down with Sarah Wayland, Ph.D., to delve into the struggles and complexities faced by parents and kids, teens, and young adults when dealing with looped behaviors. This episode explores the realization that not all actions are willful but can stem from deeper neurological and biological factors.

Dr. Wayland sheds light on how these repetitive behaviors — often seen in neurodivergent kids and adults — act as both a form of self-regulation and, at times, a hindrance leading to anxiety and distress. Sarah provides valuable insights and strategies to help shift these behaviors, from physical movement and environmental changes to gentle external suggestions. You will also learn about the importance of understanding and breaking these loops without reinforcing them, highlighting the necessity for parents to continually learn and adapt. This episode is a must-listen for anyone striving to support a kid or loved one who gets stuck in a loop.

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Do you often find yourself misinterpreting anger in your neurodivergent child, escalating situations unintentionally? Join me and Dr. Lori Desautels as we dive deep into understanding anger and what it truly signifies. Dr. Desautels, an expert in applied educational neuroscience, explains that anger often stems from a dysregulated nervous system, feeling overwhelmed, and other underlying emotions like fear and anxiety. She emphasizes that managing behavior isn't about the kids but about us as adults and how we respond.

“Sometimes, the bodyguard of fear is anger.” — Dr. Lori

Throughout the episode, you'll discover practical strategies for grounding yourself and your children, transitioning away from mere behavior management to nurturing connection and understanding. Dr. Desautels reveals the power of predictable routines and teaches you how to integrate calming practices into daily life and classroom environments. You'll walk away with valuable insights on teaching kids to understand their bodies' signals, equipping them with lifelong tools for self-regulation. Don't miss this enlightening conversation — it will transform how you approach and understand the complexities of parenting neurodivergent kids.

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Struggling to connect with your child who has ADHD can be incredibly challenging, leaving you feeling helpless and overwhelmed. In this insightful episode of Beautifully Complex (first aired 2020), I’m joined by Larry Hagner, founder of the Dad Edge podcast and father of four boys, to explore how dads can create the fatherhood they crave. Larry dives deep into his own experiences with ADHD and fatherhood, sharing practical tips on using empathy, asking open-ended questions, and the importance of praising effort rather than focusing solely on grades. His heartfelt stories, like the regrets of pressuring his son, resonate deeply and provide valuable insights on how to avoid similar pitfalls.

You'll learn how to foster better connections with your kids through tactical empathy, reflective listening, and supportive engagement, especially during escalated moments. We also highlight the necessity for fathers to be more involved in their kid’s education, advocate for individualized teaching methods, and challenge the conformity-focused education system. Most importantly, we emphasize building a supportive community, where authenticity and vulnerability are celebrated, helping you navigate the intricacies of parenting kids with ADHD more effectively. Tune in to discover how to be more intentional and purposeful in your fatherhood journey, and turn challenging moments into opportunities for growth and connection.

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Feeling like your teen or young adult is struggling to find their confidence and navigate the ups and downs of life? In this episode of Beautifully Complex, I sit down with teen life coach, Kristi Simons, to provide strategies to empower confidence in your teen. Kristi delves into the importance of allowing your teen to experience their own emotions and challenges, while also equipping them with self-reflection tools and affirmations. You'll learn why it's essential to create a safe space for your teen to express fears and anxieties, and how being open and authentic can foster stronger, more supportive relationships.

Together, Kristi and I explore powerful strategies like the "anchor activity," which helps teens ground themselves and manage emotions through joyful activities. We also highlight the need for setting realistic expectations and modeling confidence and authenticity. If you’re worried about your kid’s poor self-esteem, this episode will resonate deeply. Kristi shares actionable insights and small steps that you can take to help your teen start building their confidence today. Tune in to discover how you can support your teen in becoming their most confident, authentic self.

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