Venus Retrograde, Self-Worth, and the Value We Place on Ourselves
Host Ray Trujillo opens an October 3, 2026 transmission timed to Venus retrograde, inviting listeners to re-examine their self-worth, relationships, money, and sense of value. In this solo hour he links the planet's themes to self-validation, receiving, inherited values, and cultural measures of beauty and age.
Opening the Show Under Venus Retrograde
Trujillo opens the hour with the intro theme and a greeting for the October 3, 2026 transmission, wishing listeners a good beginning to fall. The show is timed to Venus retrograde, which Trujillo describes as a period when a planet appears to move backward while in fact it does not. Venus rules love, relationship, attraction, beauty, money, possessions, and receiving, so this retrograde becomes a re-evaluation of the heart. Trujillo places the period as officially beginning today and running until November 13, with a retrograde that starts in Scorpio and moves into Libra. Other overlapping markers include a cazimi on October 23 and a Mercury retrograde, and Trujillo suggests listeners may notice these themes in their own lives or in the wider world around them.
Self-Validation and Intrinsic Worth
Trujillo turns to the central question of the retrograde: what a person is worth when nobody is validating them. Trujillo acknowledges that people naturally seek recognition from peers, colleagues, friends, and family, since feeling received and safe is part of human nature, but argues that self-validation can be stronger than external praise. Accolades may be welcome, yet a person can collect every award and still feel never enough, a pattern Trujillo links to competitive athletes and performers who are only as good as their last performance. Trujillo advises gentleness during this period and recommends writing by hand, even if the first ten minutes seem like gibberish, as a way of externalizing the subconscious. Trujillo also notes that memories from the spring and fall of 2018 may resurface, and frames them as opportunities for reflection rather than something to force. Trujillo gives the example of a positive memory: getting sober in 2018 and being eight years sober now.
Worth Beyond Relationships and Compliments
Trujillo next applies the theme to relationships, whether a breakup, a reconnection, or a marriage in question. The suggested exercise is to look at oneself as an individual, apart from the other person, and ask whether one is a happier person with or without that partner, while setting aside practical matters such as finances, family, and children. Trujillo acknowledges that the question may sound like the question of the century, and that people sometimes want what they cannot have. Friendships receive the same scrutiny: is the friendship reciprocal, consistent, and beneficial emotionally, intellectually, and in the heart, or is it draining? Trujillo cautions that feeling needed is not the same as feeling loved, and that a compliment can serve as a reminder of value that already exists rather than creating it. The host also warns against outsourcing self-worth to relationships, social status, or what society expects. Trujillo calls this homework, asking listeners to contemplate their value as individuals, even in a room full of people or a long, happy marriage.
Receiving, Generosity, and the Artist's Worth
Trujillo develops the idea of receiving through the example of an artist who gives away work freely, pouring time, energy, and expensive materials into each piece. Trujillo describes how a gift repeated again and again can create scarcity on the other side, leaving the artist without money for more supplies, studio time, or food, and suggests that someone else may need to say the work is worth more. Picasso and Van Gogh are mentioned as artists who died penniless and were later valued at a fortune, a remark presented as an illustration rather than a historical argument. Trujillo then turns the example inward: a person who always gives, cooks, cleans, and cares for others may struggle when they are the one who needs help after a minor injury. Trujillo encourages listeners to practice saying yes when friends offer bread, vegetables, tea, or a cleaned room, suggesting that many people are waiting for the chance to return the kindness. The host asks whether listeners have been blocking others from reciprocating.
Money, Leaks, and Inherited Values
Trujillo connects money with love, describing both as carrying a sense of perceived value, while money also carries a measured value. Trujillo asks listeners to look at spending and attention for money leaks, such as subscriptions forgotten for years or spending that is a form of self-soothing, and to ask whether a shopping spree is an act of self-love or a way to fill a gap. Trujillo distinguishes net worth from self-worth, noting that finances can change dramatically while a person's worth does not. The discussion then moves to values, which Trujillo describes as shaped by family, ancestry, culture, religion, socioeconomic class, and the modeling a child observed, including whether a parent died young or the family was harmonious, toxic, or abusive. Adopted listeners are included, since Trujillo describes epigenetic and spiritual inheritance as existing even without biological confirmation. As an adult, a person can review those inherited values and decide to keep, adjust, or replace them with values they create themselves.
Beauty, Age, and a Venusian Inventory
Trujillo turns to beauty, appearance, and age, which Venus governs as a kind of mirror. Trujillo notes that culture often sets standards that leave people feeling judged whatever they do, and that a person can admire beauty without letting appearance define worth. Trujillo points to people in their eighties who swim the English Channel as a sign that age does not define a person, and observes that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, often in ways the admired person cannot see. The host asks listeners to name something they love about themselves and to set aside whether they feel too young or too old. Trujillo then closes the hour with a Venusian inventory: say or write "I value" and let the first answers come, such as garden, family, animals, work, ancestors, spirit guides, God, or self-respect, then look for deeper layers. Listeners are invited to examine where their money, time, attention, and energy go over time, and to discern what they want more of and less of. Trujillo ends with a call for self-compassion.
